WOMAN AND FAMILY LIFE
Marriage is meant to inflame the couple's
desire towards salvation and to serve God in sanctity and chastity. And a
rule of thumb for wives is: it is better to encourage the sluggish members
of one's family towards holiness by running faster, going ahead of them than
by running with them. It is better to enter the kingdom of God with one less
member than be a complete family but go to hell.
The quest for holiness is so important that
endangering it is the only valid reason for divorce. If newly weds are
exhorted to leave father and mother to cling to their wives, why not leave
husband or wife to cling to God. "If I cannot drag you away from
hell, neither will you drag me away from Christ." It is better to be
divorced from man than to be divorced from God.
God made woman to be the more devout sex
and a heroine of patience and charity; and God has engaged her in the
noblest vocation, the sanctification of man either as a mother or a wife.
We live in an evil age where sin is no
longer committed in secret but in the open, accepted by all and even
encouraged by "laws" of freedom; where even Catholic schools and
preachers teach only pietism instead of Catholic living. Then we see
philosophy and science completely helpless before the onslaught of lustful
When a woman is good, she is very good.
When she is bad, she is very bad, a source of corruption, a virulent
infection. Inspire her, therefore, to modesty, otherwise she will be bold in
her behaviour. If she forgets her morals, she will make others forget
theirs. A woman who becomes subversive is the demon incarnate; she is more
violent, more prejudiced and more ruthless than man.
To win the man of the family, sanctify the
woman. She is foremost the wife and mother whose sphere of action is
within the family where the work is enormous. Every evil in the world
today is due to a mother who was a failure.
Venerable James Alberione