Only a man who is willing to suffer for his
wife will suffer for Christ. "The Lord has heard the sound of my
weeping; the Lord accepts my prayers." So, weep for your husband or
wife and children when you see them led astray.
Marriage is a mystery, not a comedy. So,
don't make fun of it. If you cannot respect the institution, respect, at
least, what it signifies. It signifies deep spiritual truths. That's why
Christians celebrate their weddings quietly and decently, with reverence and
The mystery of love is that the lover must
decrease that he may increase. So, at the beginning, there was only one. The
one became two; now the two must decrease that they increase to three. But
the three remains one because the husband is the head and the wife, the
body. God honors husband and wife above child and parents.
Wives, when you marry, remember you are
placing a head on the body. So, look for a husband who will make a find head
on your body. Don't look at the money, the nationality or at his social
status. Look for piety, gentleness, wisdom and fear of the Lord. To do
otherwise is to hurt yourself.
Parents, pray that your children each find
a virtuous spouse; entrust this concern of yours into His hands.
On the day of the wedding, prepare
austerely. A wedding is not a pageant or a theatrical performance. Invite
only people of good character. Avoid bands and orchestra; but prepare your
house beautifully. Then, invite Christ in the poor. The bride must be
dressed modestly. From the beginning let all shun excess. The only abundance
must be in spiritual joy.
St. John Chrysostom: "On Col.